Do Not Over Spill Your Cup!

Do Not Over Spill Your Cup!

Control Your Anger and Temper – By Dr. Ibrahim Al-Fakey is a Writer and Lecturer and a leading Global Human Development Expert.

 There was this man who had great feelings of rage, anger and temper. He wanted to find a way of controlling it! He was told that there was a Wise Man in China who could give him the wisdom and knowledge on how to control it. The Wise Man lived on top of a mountain – and he will be very lucky if he was ever lucky to meet him!

 The young man did not waste any time and got on a plane to China – and climbed the mountain to meet the Wise Man. He told the Wise Man that he wanted to meet him, after knocking on the door. He was left waiting for more than three hours – and his anger increased by the minute. Then an old woman appeared and told him that the Wise Man will meet with him very soon. But this did not happen, but the Wise Man  came after another hour and the young man had reached the top of his fury and anger.

Then the Wise Man came  in his very simple clothes and saw the young man sat next to him asked:

Would you like to drink some tea?

The young man was very angry – and he said to himself – this Wise Man  is really a crazy old man – he made me wait all this time and without apologising is now asking me if I wanted some tea?

He was silent – but when the Wise Man insisted – he replied that he hated tea. He brought him tea in a big pitcher – would you like to pour yourself the tea? He replied – Yes I would prefer that!

The Wise Man ignores him and pours the tea on the cup – and continue pouring till it overflows all over the table! The young man angrily asks – what is this?  What are you doing to me? Are you crazy?

The Wise Man  abruptly gets up and says – the meeting has now ended. Come to me when you have finished drinking your cup. Then the Wise Man got up to leave!

 Watch your cup! Do not let it be filled without your permission!

The young man began to realize it and said to himself: I have lost all this time, then after all what he did to me, and now I have to let him go?

 I must change my approach to the Wise Man!  Then he said to the Wise Man: I am very sorry, I have come to you from another world as it is, Please teach me something useful? Then the Wise Man said to him: To be able to live in this world in a positive way you have to watch your cup.

The young man asked: What does this mean?

The Wise Man said to him: When we kept you waiting for three hours, what was your feeling?

The young man replied – Initially I was positive, then started to get angry by the minute until I almost exploded, but I was still determined to meet you.

The Wise Man asked him: How did you feel when we kept you another hour waiting at home?

The young man replied – I was getting angrier more and more by the minute!

The Wise Man said to him: And when I poured tea in the cup? Is it possible to pour in more than the size of the cup?

No, that cannot be possible – the young man replied.

The Wise Man  continued to ask – And what happened when I continued to pour tea in the cup?

The young man replied – The tea spilled on to the table,

The Wise Man now said: This is exactly what happened to your feelings. you came to us in a cup that is empty, We filled it – and it began overflowing. This is causing you illness!

If you want to live happy in your life you will have to watch your cup , do not allow anyone to fill it for you without your permission.

The meeting ended.

The young man told him to leave interest-Hakim:

The Wise Man said – Hey, My dear, you forget to pay a thousand dollars for the lesson?

The young man’s cup filled up again!

And you, who is filling your cup?

Would you allow everyone around you to fill your cup?

Suppose you woke up from sleep very happy and your cup is just empty.

You entered the bath and did not find any wate, it begins to fill the cup. If the soap in your eyes and the water is cut off what happens to the cup? Will fill up more! Suppose the water came back – and it poured boiling water on your head .. What will happen now?!

Finally you finished and went out to your car and found it does not work … How is the cup now?

Let us say the car worked, and you get in and began to drive fast – and the Police caught you speeding! What is the situation of the cup now?

Or you are walking on the road and there are a lot of  people around you and as everyone is going to work, and if a dog leaves all the people and bites you only … How is you cup now?

Then you reach your place of work and they said to you: You have come just now? The Manager is asking about you. Go to him immediately – as you are late! How is the cup now?

Then you went to the Manager: he tells you, I know you had been late, but this is not important. The Job and promotion which you have requested for has now been approved. Congratulations! I called you to congratulate you! How is the cup now!

You cup start become empty, but some one of them sidles to you and says: The Police are trying to contact you! Your house has burned down (God Forbid) – and your cup will start to fill up again.

Feelings are similar to the rails in the amusement parks. The roller coaster rises and falls -  and rise and then falls again – because of the events, because of the things around us, because of the people we meet.

Is it not time to control the feelings and live our goals and in our ability to use and control things – rather than let them loose and control us, our lives and our happiness- instead of harming and damaging ourselves?

Your reception and senses fuel your life  - so what fuel would you choose?

This fuel is our own emotions.

The human fuel is our reception and our sensations, and comes immediately after our own behaviours.

When it is a positive emotion, the reception and our behaviour gives us the required results, these results causes in turn new facts to emerge.

Your perception of something will  begin to change the negative thing.

Even if you realise that things will not change, and that is amongst the basic things in the process of change. We should therefore keep our cup empty, and be filled with feelings that make it always positive all the time. If you do so, it will improve your health and your thoughts – and you will be the best level – and therefore your results will be even be better.

Accordingly, we believe today’s global companies recruit its staff on the basis of their ability to control themselves and not just what is on the CV (Resume) – as it was before.

As well as the required flexibility and in employee communications, to be successful one has to be open and flexible – and positive.

That 93% of the results are based on its human core, on one’s personality and in character – and one’s actions and behaviours, thoughts and feelings and flexibility.

Everything you want to reach people it reaches through your thoughts and your movements and feelings (your own feelings) If the fuel is negative – the behaviour is also negative.

The sensations such as weather down days and up days, that is normal.

Some people tell me “Life is not normal.” Who said that life is normal!, Some say “I cannot understand life” Who can understand life, but more importantly lives moment by moment.

Do not waste your time for the past and in the blames.

In the brain, 150 billion brain cells, eye colour distinguish ten million at the same time, the mind has the ability to store information in two million per second. You must be able to control your feelings and make them positive – and adopt the ideas that lead you to so live happily.

 And feelings such as the weather is constantly changing. We must be prepared –  so you do not control negative feelings.

Each cup including exudes. Fill you cup with your good thoughts and satisfaction so as not to remain sad and unhappy.
A Marketing Manager at a hotel,  when asked how she is doing would reply : “I am in perfect shape and no one can change that”

I liked this answer too, because I believe that human behaviour and reactions are a reflection of what is going on inside us – and our reception and reactions to things outside us that we meet in life!

 When someone tells you – thatyou are stupid you will see stupidity in the features of his face as he comes out from the inside. Because if it were a person of good character and friendly nature, when he said that. One does not need to be rude and to be aggressive to communicate with others – but must be polite, diplomatic and tactful in his voice.

We always know that loud voices and high screams make the nervous system as is not balanced – and then you have to talk in a manner that would satisfy the nervous system, anyone who will listen to you and give him an opportunity to think about what you say. Besides, talking loudly is wasting your energy and part of the internal in you that needs to be controlled – so it does not control you in turn!

 Take Care – and Pass on The Message………

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